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i read about this on Intlxpatr’s blog and i thought i would put this up here as well.

in a nutshell, a kuwaiti business man from a big well respected family has decided to show the world what a lil petty girl he really is. his son was placed in detention for fighting, so instead of saying “thank you for trying to instill some discipline into my lil brat”,….

he decides to file charges against the teacher for “illegal detainment” ie kidnapping.

the teacher now has a travel ban and cannot leave the country,…. all for just doing her job.

shame on you mr marz…..

oops i better not say incase i get pettyassed by the dude too.

hmmm wait a minute, wasnt someone from the same family elected to parliament?

why, yeeeeees,…. and my what a clean campaign that guy led.

now, this aint my country so i really shouldnt give a shit, but what the hell kind of adults do you think youre gonna get if kids see their parents acting in such an appalling manner?

monkey see, lil monkey do,… and lil monkey grows up to be asshole monkey.

and lets not forget, if this shit goes unpunished and unresolved, then guess what, aint no body gonna want to come teach here no more.

so heres the story.

if you think you can help in anyway let me know, if you have access to the published press then send it to them!

the only thing that might help is the public shaming of this so called “business man”.

International Schools Review received this letter on June 23, 2007
from an international educator being detained in Kuwait. If you can
help her, or know of someone who can, please act immediately.

FROM: Al-Bayan Bilingual School Middle School
Deputy Principal, Kuwait

TO: Whom It May Concern

DATE: June 21, 2007

RE: Detained in Kuwait/In Fear for My Safety

I am a Middle School Vice-Principal at Al-Bayan Bilingual School in
Kuwait. I have been employed in Kuwait for 6 years at the same

One of my primary responsibilities is student discipline. On March 8,
2006, three boys in grade 5 were suspended for fighting. I
interviewed the boys, met with my principal and followed normal procedure. There
is no stigma here regarding suspension. Students spend the day in the
office where they study, are visited by teachers, and are taken to
the canteen, etc. It’s a normal consequence for fighting; all students
are aware of this and the procedure is clearly defined in our Parent

In the afternoon of March 8th, I received a phone call from one of
the boys’ fathers, (name deleted) who is a powerful man in Kuwait. He
called to inform me that this situation was “personal,” that he is
“friends with the emir” and that he planned to “destroy” me. This
conversation, which last about 9 minutes, was littered with
profanities and threats.

On March 11, 2006, the parents met with me, my principal and our
director, (name deleted), to discuss the suspension. The father
requested that if there was an issue involving his child that I would
call him immediately.

On April 27, 2006, I was requested to write a synopsis of events and
to visit the Ministry of Education to answer questions regarding the
suspension, describe the room in which the boys spent the school day
and provide a copy of our handbook.

In June 2006, the father transferred his children to a different
private school in Kuwait. Also, we received notification from the
Ministry of Education that in-school suspensions were no longer to be
applied; instead, parents must be contacted to take their children

In February 2007, I learned that a case had been filed against me at
the Jabriya Police Department in Kuwait; the charge was “illegal
detainment” of his son on March 8, 2006. I answered questions in my
director’s presence and the Consul from the US Embassy, (name deleted). My lawyer was also present. The police did not suggest that
there was any reason for me to be concerned as all of the questions
were answered to the apparent satisfaction.

On June 13, 2007, I was at the Kuwait International Airport intending
to fly to Bahrain. I was stopped at immigration where I was informed
that there was a case against me, pending further investigation and
that a travel ban had been placed on me. I had not been informed. My
lawyer had not been informed. This travel ban was placed upon me
15 months after the boy was suspended. The parent said that he would
make this personal and this seems to be what he is intent upon doing.

On Saturday, June 16, 2007, I visited the American Embassy where I
met with the Vice Consul, (name deleted), who informed me that he
sympathized but could do nothing to lift the travel ban. He suggested
that I get an older Kuwaiti man to appeal to Mr. M. I was told
on Wednesday that my file would be transferred to another agency for
review so the ban could be lifted. Five working days later, the
whereabouts of my file are uncertain. I have been told that my file
is in 2 different places; this seems to be a delay tactic. Why? Because
I angered an influential Kuwaiti national who is at the top of the
social register both locally and at the US Embassy?

On I visited the office of a police inspector named (name deleted,)
whose office is in Salmiya. He is a police official who was to
evaluate my file and determine if I could leave or not. He stated
that he didn’t have my file. I visited him on June 17th and 18th. On June
18th, not five minutes after I left his office with my director, the
Business Officer of my school and another school representative, I
called Mr. C, Vice-Consul at the US Embassy to gain his
insight into the situation and to see if any progress had been made
to help me leave. He was completely aware of my visit to Mr. (name deleted)
office and instructed that I not return as it “interfered.”

Several Kuwaiti families are aware of my situation but they are not
in a position to help or they don’t want to get involved. They have ALL
said that I should go to my embassy because my embassy can help me.
The fact that the embassy can’t seems shocking to everyone. Many
people also question why this accusation from Mr. M is placed
solely on me – not the school, not the principal, not the director of
school. I feel that I am being used as an example because I am a
single, American woman and he wants to show others that he can do
what he said which is to “destroy” me.

Yesterday, June 20, 2007, I received a paper from Mr. (name deleted)
office in Salmiya which lifted the travel ban. This waiver had been
granted by the Kuwait Minister of the Interior. Not long after the
Minister released me, he reversed his decision at the request of the
(name deleted) family or his representatives. I went to the airport last
night, only to learn that I couldn’t leave.

I am in fear for my safety. If the Embassy can’t help me, then who
can? I contacted the FBI in Riyad, Saudi Arabia yesterday and talked
to (name deleted) who couldn’t give me his last name. He was non-committal
but did suggest that he thought the embassy should be able to get me out.

(name deleted) has informed me that they are “working on it.” That
seems a little vague and I am not sure if the US Embassy completely
realizes the level of danger that I feel that I am in. Why does Mr.
M want me in Kuwait during the summer when no one from my
school will be in country to offer their support? To make me feel

He is well-connect and his friends are supporting his mission to
damage me in any way that he can. What’s next?

I do not feel safe. I am not safe. I need someone from the US to
acknowledge the urgency of my situation and coordinate my release. I
committed no crime. I am simply the victim of “wasta” which roughly
translates into “influence/pressure” at a high level.

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  1. “heathen” and “idiots?!?” Oh Skunk, c’mon, why don’t you tell us what you really think? *falling down laughing!*

  2. >:D hehehehe!

  3. this is bloody crazy man!
    somebody should be able to do something for this girl!

  4. Absolutely disgusting.

  5. it really is simply obscene.

  6. To be honest, throughout the Gulf, there’s a well-established belief that Kuwaiti kids are the most obnoxious of the bunch. Which is really saying something, we’re all very obnoxious here.

  7. true.

    which is why i’m never surprised when any one of em gets the shit kicked out of them when theyre outside kuwait, be it jordan, egypt etc.

    lol even a diplomat got the shit kicked out of him in tehran the other day.

  8. Should happen more often if you asked me. On their own turf. Such arrogance, drives me insane!

  9. lol i’ll drink to that!

  10. So i heard a different side of the story. Apparently “suspension” means locking up the kid in a room all day. Not cool. Also the kid was a sixth grader. The parent had asked that if a kid is gonna be suspended they should inform the parent prior to the actual implementation of the “punishment” and/ or just send the kid home like all schools do. The thing is … locking up a sixth grader all day long in a room by themselves is kinda like a isolation cell … kinda cruel.

    I’m not supporting the father’s actions. He could have simply complained and pulled his son out of school or rounded up the parents and had them say that they don’t agree with the way a suspension is carried out.

    I’m surprised that this is going on for a year already (or so I hear).

    The father has gone too far, but i’m sure that things must have escalated to have him act this way. I heard she refused to apologize and never took his permission. As a concerned father, of course he must have gotten very angry.

    I’m not defending him. I’m just saying there are two sides to every story, and things are never black and white when it comes to parents.

    Plus, these parents at said school are paying a lot of money in order to make sure that their kids are being taken care of instead of being held in solitary detention. It’s like being in jail ;/ I cant imagine being a sixth grader and being locked up all day, even if i’m allowed to go the canteen ;(

    I’m not exonerating him, a travel ban is uncalled for and definitely someone must step in and settle the situation. but the teacher should have known better.

  11. hmmm you make a good point there, and no i didnt know that “suspension” involved the locking of doors. solitary i dont have a problem with but the locking,.. yeah not cool at all.

    infact bayans definition of suspension is a bit odd. at my school while i was here, an international school older than bayan, detention was being kept back or seperated, and suspension was being sent home for a week or two. then theres expulsion where they kick you out.

    on the other hand, reading over her letter, she does mention that its part of their “parents hand book” so by signing the contract with the school youre effectively walking into that.

    however i’m pretty sure it doesnt say that the child is actually LOCKED in there.

    but whatever the truth actually is, the outrage is the people realising exactly what can be done to you in kuwait if you step on someones toes here. especially if they have big influential toes.

    youre absolutely right, he should have just pulled the kid out and urged everyone to pull theirs out too in protest of their suspension practice.

    the outrage is the fact that he didnt, and instead went on the path that he chose. and a personal one at that, he should have sued the school, not levy criminal charges at an individual.

    and yes while things must have deteriorated to the point that perhaps he was forced to go legal, likewise things must have deteriorated to the point that the teachers felt it necessary to go their route with their suspension.

    from my experience in an international school here, and from some comments here already, kuwaiti kids are not the angels that kuwaiti parents think they are. and that is ever more blatant when their behaviour is compared to kids of other nationalities in an international school environment.

    and youve got to remember, schools are schools, theyre not daycare centres where you can dump your kids.

    buuuut anyway, his action should have been directed at the school and not been directed personally at the teacher.

    oh and welcome back 😀

  12. at my school, (american) we have in-school suspension where the students are sent to a room for a day or two, depending on what they did. there is a teacher on duty all the time in this room and the students are to either study or do home work. we also have out of school suspension, where students are sent home for a number of days.. in both cases the parents are informed on the phone and also in writing..
    if you really think about it, what else is there to punish a students bad behaviour than suspension and expulsion?

  13. I cant understand how some ppl have such nerve to act like this!!
    I am a teacher myself and its just inexplicable. She was just doin her job, and even if the kid is from some big shit family- who cares???? Maybe he needs a good slap in the head instead of detention…and obviousely his dad does too!

  14. bbq8: you see that in school detention smacks too much of daycare. but i dunno things might have changed here since i was last at school so perhaps its normal procedure these days?

    i reckon if they cant be bothered to learn just chuck em out. an international school is a privelege not a right, so dump em into a govt school.

    infact, since theres a whole cross section of kuwaitis i see everyday at the market, i think kuwaitis i know from government schools are actually nicer than those from private schools in general.

    nonowa: start a ministry of bitch slapping and hire me! 😛

  15. I am/was a middle school teacher in the US for many years. All of the schools at which I have taught use in-school and out-of-school suspensions. The reason for in-school suspension is so that the students don’t have the luxury of being at home and perhaps persuading their parents to let them just have a day off. I have never heard of an in-school suspension that was not monitored by a teacher though.

  16. yeah carly, the whole locked and not monitored thing i certainly dont agree with.

    come to think of it, i’m surprised that the school in question would open themselves up to such a liability. thing is its not exactly a new school as so many international schools are these days.

    its actually one of the better and older private schools .

  17. Skunk, people who have taught at Bayan say the room is NOT locked, never, and that it is between the vice-Principal’s office and the secretaries’ office.

  18. thanks for the update xpatr. i’m more inclined to believe that its not locked, as it would expose the school to way too many liabilities.

    and diwaniya’s here are like chinese whispers factories, the story changes with every diwaniya.

  19. Agreed – Mr Marrz you are a lowlife scumbag and should learn to discipline your child and take some responsibility like a grown-up. How the hell do people like this get into positions of power when this guy is clearly a petty twat?

  20. one word mischief,….


    well, several words,…

    real estate + money = power

    twat or not 😛

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